Calm Down

Saying this to me when I'm angry or upset has never calmed me down, rather the opposite. The people who say this to you at that time are either ignorant of this fact or worse: They're intentionally trying to get your more upset or have some sub- or unconscious need to control you. I'd tell them to cut it out but it has same effect: They just further insist you calm down to the point of obnoxiousness. For me the best method is to tell them to f___ off, which usually gets them to quit in disgust or feigned indignity.